The concept of rules of civility is associated with a series of behaviors people are expected to have in order to coexist peacefully in society.
To the extent that living in a society necessarily implies coexisting with people with whom one does not have a direct relationship or knows too much about their lives, it will be necessary that certain Implicit guidelines for everyone to live in an atmosphere of cordiality and good taste: the rules of civility concern the personal and individual behavior of each person, but nevertheless together they speak about social behavior.
The idea of 'urbanity' it is at least debatable, since it can be thought that it implies a certain pejorative charge towards the ways of life that do not occur in cities but in more rural or village environments. However, one can think from the perspective that the formal definition of the urban is like the agglomerations in which more than 2000 inhabitants live (between 2000 and 20000 it will be a town, if the sum exceeds it it will be a city) and then the definition acquires another meaning: the 2000 inhabitants can be thought of as a kind of border in which the relationships established between people are not they do through individual knowledge and feelings, but simply as personifications intended to satisfy needs.
More simply, a urban space is one in which people have to interact with others who are surely unaware of their name, history and characteristicsAt the same time, a place that does not reach the category of urban is one in which most of the people know each other, being able to have their own codes of behavior, just as each home has its own. The rules of civility can be understood as guidelines when there are no relationships between people beyond those required by mutual need.
The rules of civility do not appear formalized in any regulation, and above all they do not usually have any sanction for non-compliance: at most it will be a legal contravention, but above all there will be a repudiation from the core of society to those who violate them.
The education, especially the one taught in primary schools, is one of the main responsible for the dissemination of this type of rules, and it is frequent that the first teachers are the ones who end up internalizing this kind of manners with greater force in children: this happens because the school is one of the first spaces where compliance with these rules is verified, when the child interacts for the first time sometimes with people you don't know. It is common for countries with the lowest level of schooling to be the ones that have the greatest problems with regard to rules of civility.
See also: Examples of social, moral, legal and religious norms
- Before any relationship between two people, they should greet each other.
- Confidence with people is acquired over time, and you should not talk about intimacies with those you do not know.
- The defects that one notices in another person should not be said, so as not to offend him.
- Dealing with a person with hierarchical or age superiority must be done formally, unless the preference is mutual.
- When sneezing, people should hold their nose.
- When playing a game, the option to lose always exists and must be assumed in that case.
- When a person meets two acquaintances who do not know each other, he must introduce them.
- Care must be taken for the comfort of the elderly, whether in public transport or on the street.
- The opinions of others must be respected.
- When the shift criterion is the order of arrival, it must be respected honestly.
- Orders must always be made with 'please'.
- The facilities should not be soiled anywhere.
- Pets should be controlled, taking into account that many people do not like them.
- When the requests are taken care of, they must respond with 'thank you'.
- Comparisons between people should be avoided as much as possible.
- When a person is working, you should try not to interrupt them.
- Safety rules in public spaces must be respected.
- People must be groomed and kept clean.
- The tone of voice should be enough to be heard, but not higher than that.
- Before entering a place where you do not know you will arrive, you must knock on the door.
